On this week’s ‘So You Think You’re An Adult’ segment, one woman is wondering if she should confront her friend after being left out of her wedding party.

“I’ve been best friends with someone for over 15 years,” she told Moncrieff.

“We’ve shared everything, birthdays, breakups, even family holidays – but I recently found out that I’m not in her wedding party.

“To be honest, I was expecting to be her maid of honour. I’m trying to be supportive and happy for her, but I can’t help feeling hurt and excluded, it’s like I’m not as important to her as she is to me.

“I don’t want to ruin her special time, but these feelings are eating away at me.

“Am I overreacting or do I have a right to be upset? How do I handle this without causing unnecessary drama?”

An outdoor wedding. Image: Kay Roxby / Alamy Stock Photo

Broadcaster Dee Reddy said the letter writer’s feelings were understandable, but she should avoid making this all about her.

“People have so, so many people to bear in mind around a wedding,” she said.

“It could be a cousin that she’s under pressure to include, it could be a sister-in-law – you don’t know.

“Yes, you’ve been friends for 15 years, but I always try to think of friendships as like, groups of friends.

“If you think of it like a galaxy, sometimes you’re in the same orbit as people, you're in sync and your lives align and it’s easy to be there for each other and to support each other.

“Maybe [the letter writer] is basing this on a few years ago – and they may come back around, but I would say, they probably won’t come back around if she creates unnecessary drama around this and makes it about her.”

One-sided

TV personality Declan Buckley said that the friendship may have been more one-sided than this person realises.

“If you were that bestie friendly, there would probably have been a conversation where the other person would say, ‘Look, we’re really close, but blah, blah, blah, so I’m having my sisters-in-law because, you know, whatever reason’,” he said.

“People do weird things like that because they’re trying to tick boxes – and a lot of these things are meaningless nonsense that only happen for the day and afterwards will be forgotten about.”

Declan said that using the label of ‘best friend’ shows a “limited understanding about how people’s social relationships work”.

Listen back here: