On this week’s So You Think You’re an Adult, one man isn’t sure if two weeks is too soon after his break up to start dating again. 

“I broke up with my boyfriend two weeks ago, after nearly a decade together,” he told Moncrieff. 

“Five days after the breakup, I was out in town and I bumped into someone, and we got chatting - he asked me out on a date, and I said yes. 

“When I told my friends, they told me that it’s too soon to go on a date, for both myself and out of respect for my ex. 

“My sister told me it makes me look really bad and heartless if I move on too soon, but I think she is being dramatic."

He said he and his boyfriend were on the verge of breaking up for “months” and he has hasn’t had feelings for him for a while. 

“Should I hold off a few more weeks before going on a date, or should I not be concerned what my ex and others think of me?” he asked. 

“This is my first time being single as an out gay man, so I am excited to get out there and not sit around crying.” 

'I wouldn't get too excited'

Broadcaster Declan Buckley said he can see the perspective of “people who want to police how people live and wanting to be nice”. 

“[But] if it ended acrimoniously or with great emotional upset for the ex, no amount of time or whatever will fix that,” he said. 

Declan also pointed out the listener likely doesn’t want to “waste time” after dating one man for 10 years and not experiencing being single and gay. 

“Now, I wouldn’t get too excited about that either,” he joked. “You’re over the hill as far as the gays are concerned.” 

“I would counsel against ‘excitement’ being the driving force, rather than the feelings of people around. 

“Your sister called you heartless... you can have both things you can look like you're considerate and kindhearted and get on with your life as well.” 

Dating post-break up

Actress Mary McEvoy said it’s not like the ex is “dead”. 

“It's not like he's a widower or anything and has decided to kind of start dating as soon as the last little bit of clay is on the coffin,” she said. 

“If you started worrying about what other people think you'll never, ever do anything in your life.” 

She said no matter when he starts dating again, the ex is “still going to be hurt” and he can’t live his life worrying about him or other people too much.