Men should confide in other people about miscarriage and still birth, and it's OK to cry.
One Lunchtime Live caller has said he has dealt with miscarriage on more than one occasion, and it's important to talk about it.
It comes after the wife of former England captain Wayne Rooney, Coleen Rooney, has opened up about suffering a miscarriage ahead of the release of her autobiography.
Rooney said a miscarriage at 10 weeks during her first pregnancy "knocked Wayne for six, too".
Tony told the show the experience didn't feel real for him.
"Our son is eight and when we had him it was fantastic, there were wasn't issues," he said.
"We said we don't want him to be on his own, so we'll try again.
"We had a very early onset miscarriage which at that point all the support is given to my wife - and rightly so.
"I think at that point, for me, it wasn't as real as it was for her.
"I just wanted to be there for her and we were still looking after our own son".
'I lost it at that point'
Tony said it happened again within a year, but it was different for him this time.
"What happened then was my father died, and at the funeral my wife told me she was pregnant," he said.
"She had been dealing with that... there was a lot of stress there, so she was keeping that just to the right time.
"I was thrilled to be honest - we went in for the scan and the scan was fine.
"I think it was two or three weeks later we went in for another scan, and there was no heartbeat.
"I think with my father passing there was an element of one generation going and another one arriving.
"I lost it at that point... I would just get in my car and I'd go somewhere and I would just cry.
"I would feel better afterwards and that's the one thing I'd say to anybody: this whole thing of 'men don't cry' that is absolute and utter bull.
"You need to let it out and your feel better after you do it."
'We helped each other'
Tony said some men may prefer to confide in someone.
"I talked to my wife and we kind of consoled each other," he said.
"She's very empathetic and she could see it was impacting me as well, and I think that really helped.
"I think we kind of helped each other a lot."
Tony said he then went to therapy which he found very helpful.
'I can still see him'
Another caller, Tony Owens from the stillbirth and neonatal death association Féileacáin, told the show it is devastating for the Dad's too.
"It's a grieving process that everybody has to go through," he said.
"We had a miscarriages and a still birth, your world is just taken away from you.
"While the mother is the most important person, it is devastating for the dad's as well.
"Once you find out your pregnant your story has begun and your planning it.
"Even though it's 10 years down the road, I can still see him - he'd be in 3rd class, he'd be playing football for this team.
"He's still very much part of our life story."
Mr Owens said if people want to try and comfort those dealing with miscarriage, the best thing they can do is acknowledge the loss.
"Try refrain from the catchphrases, it doesn't help," he said.
"Saying that, 'Aren't you lucky you have a baby at home already' or 'You're still young' - nobody knows anybody's personal circumstances.
"The best thing you can say is, 'I'm really, really sorry that this has happened' and have the guts to face that 30 seconds of you feeling terrible and awkward," he added.
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